There are two levels to this. The first is in finding the “right” partner. The other level is in the relationship between the partners.

Finding the “Right” partner

Based on the human charts of two people, a professional analyst can provide you with some very practical information, and express to you where your sparks are, where there are clashes, where you don’t get along, and whether the “score” of getting along is high. What is lacking between you and what is most likely to tempt the other person out of the relationship.

This information is very, very useful, and it’s like picking out all the potential opposites. For those who don’t score too high with you, I can just tell you that you don’t need to waste your time. Because generally speaking, in the end, it’s very likely that they’ll split up, or get together unnaturally, because everyone needs to suppress some part of themselves to make the relationship work. It’s not love, it’s just “not wanting to look bad”.

Getting Along as a Couple

When a couple understands each other’s innate design, they stop hating each other’s behavior and accept it. As a result, there is much less chance of arguing, because you’re close to not being able to be mad at each other’s natural design, and you have no reason to support your anger: “Hey, it’s written, there’s nothing I can do about it”. What’s the point of arguing when we’ve all written it?

Why don’t we all just accept the person we’ve chosen to be with, and accept the good and the bad in each other? Sometimes certain energies can be too strong, such as losing your temper easily, so we can talk to each other and say, “Hey, hey, your emotional energy number 55 is coming out, do you want to give you some space, I don’t want to be the cannon fodder. What are you arguing about? There is nothing to argue about. On the contrary, because I understand the other person’s human chart too well, this kind of fun teasing each other is even more fun: “Hey, I know you are a criticizer, but today is too much, from now until the end of the day, don’t criticize me again~”, and the other person responds: “Haha, it’s really too much again, ok, ok, sorry, listen to you, I won’t use the energy of criticism anymore from now on”. Can you still argue? Everyone understands too well, and there is evidence to support that this is by design, and there is no way to change it, so why don’t we all learn to accept our chosen partners wholeheartedly?

And if you decide, after learning about each other’s design, that it’s not what you want, whether it’s because the spark isn’t there, the type or personality isn’t what you want, then you have a reason to say so and to separate. Everything is answered.

It’s all just a jigsaw puzzle to find another piece of society that you’re willing to accept and try to get along with for the longest time possible. Now that we have the information about the human puzzle to know exactly what kind of puzzle we are and what each piece of society looks like, why don’t we try to understand our own and each other’s puzzles, and at the same time, understand our compatibility, our spark, and our way of getting along with each other?